The F Bomb
At some point everyone has to do it, say it and its not always the easiest thing to do. It takes courage, time and sometimes being the bigger person even when you don't want to.
Forgiveness; it can be defined as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance towards a person who has harmed you.
You know the story he hurt you, she hurt you, and now you hate so and so and want revenge because they broke your heart. We all know that when the heart breaks it doesn't break even and it hurts like hell. But thats it! it just hurts. At the end of the day the person who wronged you apologizes and moves on with their life while you are left to pick up the pieces of your crushed ego or heart claiming you've accepted their apology. When in reality you haven't.
Holding on to bad feelings is not healthy it causes stress, mental anguish and a not so pleasant disposition. The burden is heavy and you holding on to it could be blocking your blessings . The funny thing is that when you decide to forgive someone its usually not for them but for you! That grudge you're harboring only robs you of your happiness. Sounds cliche' but its true when you really sit down and think about how much energy your are putting into the negative things/thoughts that you will unleash on a person when you see them. Save yourself some time sis and get you right and let karma handle them. Know that every apology won't deserve a reconciliation or a response even if you are lucky enough to get one but it will eventually require the act of forgiveness. Its not always easy depending on the situation but its necessary. In order for you to heal you have to be real with yo'self evaluate the situation, admit where you went wrong, where someone else had you messed up and then forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for being a fool , getting played ,for not being true to your self, ignoring red flags, then forgive others. Remember, It’s not always the person we hate it’s the actual situation, outcome and how it was handled.
P.S. Listen don't go into the new year holding grudges and hating people for things they did years, months or even weeks ago. Sometimes you must do yourself a favor and throw the whole person away!